Wednesday, November 3, 2010

NO MORE BULLYING!

I don't always expect my children to be popular, but I certainly hope they will have a friend or two.  My son thought he had one -just one.  Last night that friend joined two other kids and pelted my child with rocks and sticks.  When my child told them to stop, they held him and stuffed his shirt with leaves.  When he tried to run away, they threw basketballs, and soccer balls, and even a baseball at his head.  When his face turned red from the effort of holding back tears, they told him he was a wus. 

Thank God for cell phones.  "Come get me.  Now!" 

My child needs a real friend.  His dad and I need wisdom so that we don't exacerbate the situation. 


21 comments:

Mental P Mama said...

I am speechless. And I don't know what to do. What makes these children so angry? So cruel? Speechless.

Christy said...

I would be all over the parents. That is where they learn it. Then the school because it may be that they know it goes on and just think "kids will be kids". Well that isn't the case. I wasn't like that and neither were mine. It's because they were taught it was not acceptable.

You have to be proactive about this and not just try to tell your son not to worry about it. That is how the kids get to the point they feel suicide is the way to go. The ones being bullied need to know someone has their back.

Let the Mama Bear come out. Your son will appreciate it.

The Incredible Woody said...

OMG!! I am speechless. I would be hard pressed to not pop a knot on the heads of a few certain children!!

claudia said...

I just cannot understand what goi the young kids these days. It seems we hear about bullying in the news more and more each week.
Years ago, my oldest daughter had a run in with some kids after they got off the bus at her stop. I went straight to the principal and demanded he do something about these kids. (They had ruined a brand new shirt of hers during the bullying) The principal called them all in, suspended them from school until they came up with the amount of money that the shirt cost. Then they were told if they ever even looked at her in a mean way again they would be facing police charges. It stopped right then and there. In fact, one of them got ahold of her recently and apologized for his behavior.
I hope that you can get this resolved to your satisfaction and without the embarassment to your son.
Kids can be so mean sometimes!

Noe Noe Girl...A Queen of all Trades. said...

This really makes me mad! I tell my kid to keep his hands to himself. When he got beat up at a sleepover, yep thats right, I was upset and hurt and it took me weeks to get over it. You just never expect this to happen to your kid. If he throws the first punch his butt belongs to me. But now if he gets hit, I tell to go for it! Like Christy, I would be all over the parents. Kids and parents alike need to learn every action has a consequence! Hugs coming at ya girlie!
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Aging Mommy said...

I have to agree totally with everything Christy has written. She says it perfectly.

Like many people, as a child I experienced some bullying at one time and I never told my parents about it or the teachers so nothing was ever done. Your son has asked for your help, so you have to help, by addressing this with the school and with the parents of those bully boys. Try and think about this from their perspective too, if it were your son who had done this to another boy, ganged up on him when he was without defense, wouldn't you want to know and make sure your son never ever did that again? If these parents don't feel that way well there perhaps lies the answer as to why their children are bullies, then the school has to step in. But I bet most if not all will step up to the plate.

I wish I could come and give you all a hug and help out right now, that's what I'd most like to do.

Shannon said...

Oh I agree with Christy!!! You need to confront the parents! That behavior is NOT acceptable!

Just this weekend, I had a "gang up" situation on my youngest son (who is 5). My oldest (age 8) and his friend were playing and naturally little brother and his friend (also 5) wanted to join until it became 3 kids against 1. I waited a minute to see how this was going to play out, but when my youngest's friend decided it was okay to start swinging my youngest around by his shirt collar while the older too called him names. I HAD ISSUES! Needless to say that was far less than your situation, but I walked next door and calmly told the parent that her son's behavior was completely unacceptable for playing with my son and that I wasn't tolerating it. You know she didn't say anything.... Didn't even make her son apologize. My kids will not be playing with that child again... I'm sorry. As for the older two... I called my older son's friend's Mom. Told her what happened and that is why not acceptable to do such a thing and she agreed. She even punished her son and put him on restriction and Monday morning, he had an apology hand written to give me. Now for my son... He too wrote and apology and was punished.

It is NOT acceptable to bully and parents need to be made aware!!! Let that Mama Bear come out! The only people that have your son's back beside your son is you and your husband! LEt them know that behavior is NOT acceptable!!!

Laura ~Peach~ said...

yes there would be some parents meeting with me... post haste... wish you guys lived here MJ has always been the advocate for the underdog or kids who are picked on and shes got the knife edged tongue that would shame those bullies like no other. HAVE SEEN HER IN ACTION... tis not pretty when shes been provoked.
HUGS to your son tell him he is one heck of a good man to not act like those other kids.
love n hugs

Busy Bee Suz said...

Oh, this is heartbreaking.
Was there NOT someone around that could have helped???
I don't know what I would do...I really don't.
God bless your son, he deserves much better.

imbeingheldhostage said...

TOUGH situation. Mean kids suck. I am SO sorry for your boy :-(

That corgi :) said...

I am so sorry for your son, poor kid!! Definitely follow the advice of so many wise commenters ahead of me and confront the parents and perhaps talk with the school about an assembly against bullying. (really I don't know the age of the kids, but I would be tempted to call the police and get them involved since these kids definitely were bieng malicious and attacking your son). As a parent, I would definitely want to know if my kid was doing this type of behavior.

let us kinow down the line an update if you can

betty

Cranberry Morning said...

I am so sorry to hear this! I think we're seeing the results of a generation of people who were raised to think it was 'all about them,' rather than thinking of others first. Children aren't corrected when they have atrocious behavior because we don't want to damage their self image.

I pray that your son can find a true friend, and that America wakes up and realizes that they're raising a generation of selfish monsters.

Lucy and Ethel said...

This made me ill.

I hope you allowed your Mama Bear to come out and let at least the bullies and their folks know that that behavior is inexcusable and will NOT be tolerated. EVER.

Our daughter's 'best friends' in middle school completely snubbed her on the first day of high school. And I thought that was bad. I told her it was a great opportunity to meet some NEW friends, and that's what she did :)

Sending big hugs to your sweet boy and to you....

'Lucy'

Sketches by Mary said...

I hate to say this, but kids can be so so cruel these days...I do feel for anyone being bullied. I can remember kids trying to bully me in grade school but soon quit when they soon realized I would not put up with such games!
I learned more about kids and how they treat one another when I was teaching. I held a discussion group for my group of children. I'm hoping that it had a lasting impression to give them the guidance in the future.

I believe, that children need our support and love during these hard times in school. It's difficult, even with peer pressure.

In this instance tho, I would have to defend my child. And have a talk with the other parents..
I can speak from an experience I had in my own class..when a child had become very difficult to deal with..I found out why the child may have been acting they way he did...it was because his father was a drinker, and he simply acted as if there was nothing wrong instead dealing with the issue at hand.
Just my 2 cents.

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Debbie said...

Oh, this is unbelievable. I would have made a beeline to the parents. Not sure if anything would hold me back. Pathetic, the way these kids are today. Sick.

Your poor baby...

Karen & Gerard Zemek said...

Very sad for your son, especially the "friend" who turned on him. I would definitely pray for your son and those who bully him. Also, try to think of something nice he could do for the bullies--maybe give them gum or candy or something (Romans 12:21).

Kelli Nørgaard said...

Poor little guy. Kids really suck sometimes!
I know you guys will do the right thing...the thing he needs right now...just trust yourselves and rely on your love for him....

Mrs4444 said...

I'm really sorry to hear this and very glad he had a cell phone. What jerks! I look forward to the follow- up.

As Cape Cod Turns said...

Oh my gosh, this is HORRIBLE!!! What did you wind up doing since I am realizing that this happened last week. Why do kids have to be so mean????

Martha in PA said...

Bullying is such an epidemic these days, I totally do not understand it, if these children are so cruel at this young age, what is going to happen when they are all adults. My daughter pretty much spent and entire year with no friends because of mean things her so called friend said to her... thankfully we moved away, and after a year of cyber school she was ready to take the plunge again, as a much more self confident young girl!