Wednesday, March 30, 2011

What do I know?

After all these years of parenting and teaching, I'm pretty adept at predicting the behavior of adolescents. The basic rule is this: if one deviates from the pack in appearance or behavior, he or she will be teased. Sometimes mildly and in fun and sometimes more determinedly and with true malice. I've seen it happen at work. I've seen it happen at home.


Yesterday the music teacher at our local elementary school suggested that her students dress nicely for their trip to the symphony today. I laid out khaki pants and a polo shirt for my boy, but he came walking down the stairs looking like this.

I worried about the reactions of the boys in his class who have bullied him a bit this year. Apparently he was a little worried, too, and he decided if the teasing got too bad he would just leave the jacket, tie, and vest in his backpack.

At the carpool stop, our passenger walked up to the car, looked at my son through the window and smirked. My boy put his head down and reiterated that he would probably take the jacket off right away. Then the other student got in the car and said,
"Dude, why didn't you tell me you were wearing a suit?! I wanted to wear mine but was scared to."

My boy walked into school afterward looking a lot taller and smiling like the self-actualized young man he already is.

10 comments:

Lucy and Ethel said...

LOVE this!!! Kudos to your sweet boy. He set such a good example for your passenger and plenty of others, unwittingly or not :)

Lucy

Grandma J said...

What a great young man. He is a leader, and not everyone likes a leader...but most do!! Tell him he looks very handsome in a suit...and mature!

Busy Bee Suz said...

YOU my friend should be proud...your kids are so confident; amazing.

ps. He looks DASHING!!!!

Noe Noe Girl...A Queen of all Trades. said...

I hear you beaming Caution! I would be too. What a good boy you have there. And handsome too!
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Laura~peach~ said...

HANDSOME SMART STRONG DUDE!
way to go!

Betty said...

I think it´s so great of YOU as his mother for letting him wear this, even though you suspected that there could be ridicule.
He is really something to be proud of!!

In the Heart of Happy said...

That just made my day!!! He is such an awesome kid...tell him I said, He Rocks!!!

http://intheheartofhappy.com

Cranberry Morning said...

Good for your great kid! He'll definitely be the one getting the job offer some day!

jojo said...

what a treasure this boy is! My son would have done the same thing...

claudia said...

That is beautiful!