Friday, February 13, 2009

What Love Means

As we watched the news the other night, I was horrified by a story. A mother who suffers a long history of serious mental illness was being charged with torturing her children. Not just abuse, but torture. The husband/father was interviewed. He was obviously brokenhearted at losing his children and tried to explain that when his wife was on her meds, she was a loving, wonderful mother. "She's so sick," he sobbed, "And now I've lost my children, too."

I issued some invective against the husband/father for his blind love of his wife.

My husband turned to me and quietly asked, "Would you want me to stop loving you just because you got sick?"

I was rendered speechless at the depth of Checkered's compassion and love.

18 comments:

Laura ~Peach~ said...

wow checkered what a great and perfect question ... Have I mentioned how much I like your checkered? he reminds me of mike alot of the time.

Midlife, menopause, mistakes and random stuff... said...

Dear Caution Flag,
It sounds as though you too have found your Prince. What a sweet, loving and compassionate thing to say to you :=0

I love your blog and I hope you don't mind, but I'd like to follow your posts?

(and........yepper's my Prince is getting the necklace as a joke....he just don't know it yet, lol)

Steady On
Reggie Girl

Living on the Spit said...

Checkered is so awesome. You are a very lucky woman.

Mental P Mama said...

Have you seen the show "United States of Tara"? It is about a mother with multiple personalities. Her husband loves her unconditionally, but her kids have a hard time with some of her personas...Checkered is awesome, and I bet he would do what is right for your kids as well.

Pleasing Procrasinator said...

What a wonderful husband you have. Well said Checkered!!

Noe Noe Girl...A Queen of all Trades. said...

We all have our imperfections. Some are more visual than others. I am so grateful for my Cdub and his unconditional love for me. I think a lot of folks could learn something from Checkered. He makes a good point. You're as lucky as me!

Betty said...

What a sweetypie. He already proved to be your Valentine!

Julie said...

he is a winner... is God amazing to bless us with such wonderful husbands. I read a book that said "love is irrational" and that simple statement is so true... we love our family regardless of what they do

Big Hair Envy said...

Looks like you will be celebrating another amazing Valentine's Day this year:) What a great guy!!!

mom x 2 said...

Awww, well said Checkered! You've got quite a catch there! Isn't it is nice to know you are loved unconditionally? The Salesman is much like that. I am lucky to have him.

Have an amazing Valentines Day!

Louise said...

It's a moving story. I don't know what I can add to what has already been said, except that I feel for all of the members of that family, and I don't really know whose is the greater tragedy - the tortured children who will be scarred for life, the husband whose family has fallen apart or the wife whose illness is not of her own making. I'm glad your husband is so sensitive. I hope mine would be in the same position.

Jan said...

I think you found a keeper. :-)

Noe Noe Girl...A Queen of all Trades. said...

Have I told you lately that I love you? Cause I do!

Dr.John said...

I really love my wife. I do. I would do anything foir her. But if she had tortured my kids I would clearly have done something to stop it.

Noe Noe Girl...A Queen of all Trades. said...

God is good!

Sandra said...

God blesses us regularly through our spouses, doesn't he. Happy Valentines Day.

LadiesoftheHouse said...

Checkered sounds like an awesome all around man--you truly are blessed with a real life valentine!

Having said that I am certain he is also sensible enough that he would have put a barrier between you and the kids he also loves if he knew you would/may harm them.

Sometimes I have to remove myself from the news for awhile. It gets me so far down I have a hard time getting back up.

Know what I mean?

Cairo Typ0 said...

Sounds like you definitely have a keeper. :)